Saturday, August 19, 2006

Love and Marriage - Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna

I think there have been quite a few blogs about this. And it is always on the top of everyone's mind. For a married person, it is about the decision made and for a person unmarried, it is the decision to marry.

For people from India, these choices are not so easy to make as they are for someone in the west or even from east. The society, the culture and more importantly several falsehoods effect the choice making ability of an individual here. Males generally have more options and are also easily forgiven. But that is not something unique to our society, it is a world reknown phenomenon. Freedom of choices as we see outside and inside societies is a matter of perception.

This movie is not the first to raise these questions or provide answers. But it is one of first that will probably been seen (now thats already a fact) by the largest audience ever. The movie, good or bad, or distasteful has had one of the largest box office openings ever. And you can credit that to the cursiosity factor, but  also because of the star cast. The director and producer only has the best in the film.


The movie now is a box office hit. And on its way to establish a few records, till the next one come along. I had the oppurtunity to see the movie this holiday weekend. With all the mad rush that was on and about to see the movie, i came back a lot disheartened.

I had a problem with the story telling, narration and also to some extent the theme itself. The theme of the movie was not to raise any questions, but simply to justify passion. Second the way story was being narrated, there was little room for passion itself, it simply became a matter of obession on the story teller's part. The characters would have loved to live a life together, but the story simply had to create diversion and exagerate problems. And then finally the most telling and slap in my face, was when the ex-husband and ex-wife get together to hook up their ex. !! wtf !!!

The question being asked is 'what happens if you meet your soulmate, after you are married ?' This can ring true in everybody's marriage. But who is a soulmate ? Should a person spend his lifetime searching for their soulmate, when they can have a decent life with the person right next to them. This soulmate thing is so overrated. And i somehow feel, there is no such person around. If you find one, please let me know. (And i will keep a record, and check back with you after a year, then after 2, then after 5, and then after 10. I am sure your story will change as time goes by).

The ex-wife in the movie tries to justify her action of hooking up her  ex-husband with his soulmate. She tells her, "i'm not going to let you off so easy, try living a life with him".  Now that is also probably the best gift you can give your ex. A good translation would have been, "go to hell, and all the best".

Life is about making choices. But that is quickly interpretted as meaning, we are expected to make a choice everytime. My answer is no. Sometimes not making a choice in itself is a choice. And manytimes, in life you are provided alternate routes (i view them as alternate), and all you really need to do, is continue on your set path.

References to others blogs are purely coincidental and similarities are simply fictional.

1 comment:

Cool Cancerian said...

This is a view of KANK that I can identify with....and you do write well!!